In today’s society some people blame feminism for the weakening and feminization of men. We heard that a lot in the video “Tough Guise 2”, especially in the part where Rush Limbaugh and the other on air reporters are telling their largely male audience that “those femi-nazis” are to blame for undermining maleness in our society. Kimmel also mentions it when he says, “Because of feminism, they say, America has been so focused on girls that we’ve forgotten about the boys.” This is absolutely absurd, and it definitely does more harm to society than good.
When men here messages like this in the media it makes some of them overcompensate by being violent just to prove that they are still masculine. It’s seen in mass shootings where the shooter justifies what he did by saying he was made fun of and picked on and even in the sexual violence against women. In the video they talk about the Steubenville, Ohio case where two football players raped a girl a girl who was drunk and unconscious. I have to say the footage of them talking about raping the girl was absolutely appalling and it was very difficult to watch, but it shows just how far some guys will go just to show their friends how manly they are.
But, these messages aren’t always leading guys to hurt other people; it can lead to them hurting themselves. Kimmel says in his piece, “boys are four to five times more likely to kill themselves than girls…” and in the video they talk about how almost two-thirds of all gun deaths are do to male suicides. This is because boys are taught that they aren’t supposed to be emotional and they need to keep all their emotions to themselves, which can lead to depression, mental illness or physical outbursts.
This is why men need feminism too. Kimmel says, “Feminism encourages men - and their sons – to be more emotionally open and expressive, to develop empathetic skills, and to channel emotional outbursts away from violence. And feminism demands the kinds of societal changes that make this growth possible.” Boys and men need to learn that it is all right to be emotionally open and that doing so doesn’t make you a girl, no matter what the media tells them.